11 Tips for NOT Sabotaging the Newborn Phase!

Third Time Around—and Still Learning

This is my third time going through the newborn phase.

You’d think by now I’d be a pro.

And in many ways, my past experiences did ease a lot of the anxiety that comes with those first few weeks.

But even with that, I underestimated how tough this stage can still be!

After all, it’s been five years since I last did this—and wow, did I forget a lot of the nitty-gritty details that come with postpartum and caring for a newborn.

And, of course, every baby is different. You never really know what to expect.

That said, this time was different for me.

When I Was a First-Time Mom

I remember being completely overwhelmed by how much my life shifted when my first baby arrived.

I know not every first-time mom feels this way, but for me, I spent most of those early months just waiting for the “next” phase—hoping it would be easier than the one we were in.

I was very anxious when I would encounter an obstacle or change that I couldn’t immediately figure out.

My baby’s cries sent a wave of dread through my whole body. And if I couldn’t calm them down? I immediately felt like I was failing.

Then I had two under two, and boy were those early days even more stressful—and I made it harder on myself by trying to control every moment.

But This Time Was Different

The third time really was the charm.

My expectations weren’t perfect, but they helped me stay adaptable and trust my own intuition.

And that’s the first point I want to share with you, mama:

💡 You’ve got this. Whether it’s your first baby or your seventh, your instincts are powerful and more than enough.

Always stay open to help—but never underestimate what you bring to the table.

The Power of Slowing Down

The second thing that changed everything for me?

I finally learned to slow down.

I didn’t do this the first time. Back then, I lived in constant survival mode (which is totally understandable!). But looking back, I now see how that mindset not only robbed me of so many little joys but it also sabotaged my ability to handle everything.

This time, I gave myself permission to accept the changes and focus on the phase we were in—rather than rushing to return to “normal.”

I soaked up the baby snuggles. I studied his cues and paid attention to any stressors. I was patient when things didn’t go smoothly.

Simple things, right? But wow, they made a world of difference.

⏱️ Pace with Grace

Mom holding newborn, reflecting on postpartum journey

Before we get into the newborn survival tips I learned this time (when I did take things slow), I think it is essential that I drove this point across to you!

That sometimes we are the reason for our struggle through the newborn phase.

That’s not to say some babies don’t genuinely struggle more than others — they do.

Some are fussy and adjusting to life outside the womb in their own unique (and loud!) way.

No matter how hard you try to understand your baby, nothing helps and they’re cranky all the time.

But often, it’s our own pace that’s the problem.

When We Rush, We Rob Ourselves

We’re exhausted.

We’re impatient.

And we’re in such a hurry to “get back to normal” — to do the laundry, catch up on emails, or feel productive again.

And in that rush, we sabotage the very experience we hoped to enjoy.

Don’t Rush This

This season is brief.

So brief, in fact, you may miss it while it’s still happening.

Once it’s gone, it’s gone.

So enjoy it!

🧺 The Laundry Can Wait

There will always be dishes.

There will always be piles of laundry.

But this newborn phase?

This is a once-in-a-lifetime moment with this baby.

I’ve been through it three times now — and I promise, it flies by.

Let the house be messy.

Let the to-do list pause.

Let yourself just be.

Give Yourself Grace

Even on days when all your baby does is cry,
even when nothing seems to soothe them —
give yourself grace.

They’re adjusting to a brand-new world after nine months of total comfort.

They don’t know how to say,

“I’m scared,”

“I’m overstimulated,”

“I’m just figuring this out.”

So they cry.

And that’s okay.

This phase won’t last forever — even though it feels like it might.

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Ways to Avoid Sabotaging Your Newborn Experience

Now for the part you’ve been waiting for — the meat of it all.

We can’t control everything during the newborn phase.

Some things — like your baby’s temperament, developing digestive system, or possible medical needs — are simply out of your hands.

These can absolutely affect sleep, feedings, bowel movements, and overall routine.

But here’s the good news:

There are things you can control — and when you do, they can make the difference between constant stress and a smoother, more peaceful start to life with your baby.

Let’s get into the real-life strategies that helped me stop sabotaging my latest experience with the newborn phase.

1. Don’t Underestimate the First Three Days

Confident mom cradling baby with ease

Giving birth takes your body (and mind) from shock, to euphoria, to survival mode — in a matter of hours.

And no matter how much you’ve prepared, the first night in the hospital can still knock you off your feet.

⏰ The First 24 Hours Are a Blur

You’re sore, you’re bleeding, and your hormones are doing cartwheels.

Your newborn seems strangely easy:

They eat, sleep, and repeat.

Breastfeeding might feel hard, but they latch.

They snooze.

You almost exhale.

Meanwhile, your phone’s blowing up with texts and notifications about the new arrival.

You want to rest, but the adrenaline — and interruptions (plus a super uncomfortable bed) — make it nearly impossible.

Even if you tried your best to get some rest, you find that every hour or so someone needs something from you.

Still, you tell yourself:

“This isn’t so bad. What was everyone talking about?”

Whether it’s the illusion that your baby is “easy” because their exhausted bodies are also recovering from traumatic separation, and so they’re sleeping in reasonable stretches.

Or, it’s the constant and immediate support that you’re surrounded with in those first hours that really gives you a sense that everything is predictable.

Or, just the fact that you have some experience under your belt — nothing wrong with that.

But your confidence does shoot up (or at least remains high) during that first day/night!

But don’t let it blind-sight you.

Because Day 2 and beyond?

A whole new story.

Tips for Surviving Those Crucial First 3 Days

🏥 1. If You Can, Stay the Extra Night

I get it — no one wants to stay in a hospital longer than necessary.

But if you have the option, consider it.

Staying one more night can give you:

Access to on-site lactation consultants
Around-the-clock nursing support
Help with cluster feeding or latching struggles
A little more time to rest before heading into full-time newborn care

With my first, that extra day was gold. I didn’t realize how helpful it would be until I got home and the support was gone.

💤 2. Sleep When Baby Sleeps — Seriously

You’ll hear this a lot — especially from nurses — and for good reason.

Even if you can’t nap on Night 1, try to rest as much as you can during Day 2, because Night 2 tends to hit hard.

Your baby may suddenly become more wakeful, more hungry, and harder to soothe.

➡️ My third baby didn’t fall asleep until 5 AM on Night 2!

Don’t wait until you’re completely wiped to rest.

Sleep when baby sleeps.

No guilt.

🤝 3. Ask for Help — and Accept It

Once you’re home, don’t try to do everything on your own.

Ask for help, even if it’s just for:

Taking a shift at night
Bringing you food or water
Holding the baby while you shower or nap

Plan for it!

Cluster feeding is exhausting — whether you’re breastfeeding or bottle feeding.

You need rest, support, and emotional space to recover.

If someone offers to help, and you trust them, let them in.

Just make sure they understand what “help” really looks like with a newborn.

2. Don’t Stress Them Out

mom visibly stressed holding baby

Yes — your stress can sabotage your newborn experience.
And potentially… your baby’s, too.

We often think of the newborn phase as just diapers, feedings, and sleepless nights. But there’s another layer many parents overlook: emotional energy.

Babies — even newborns — are deeply sensitive to the world around them.

The emotional energy you give off is no exception.

Can Babies Really Feel Your Stress?

There aren’t many studies specifically showing newborns absorb stress, but there are studies showing that babies as young as 3 months (and definitely by 1 year) can feel and respond to a parent’s emotional state. (1, 2)

Even without hard data, we know how it feels:

When you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and on edge, it affects how you interact — your patience, your confidence, even how gently you move or speak.

Those reactions affect your baby’s ability to regulate, rest, and feel safe.

🔄 Stress is a Cycle — and It Can Start With Us

Let’s be real: it’s easy to spiral.

Lack of sleep, sensory overload, and endless crying can push anyone to their limits.

But when your patience runs thin or your confidence dips, it becomes harder to soothe your baby — which often leads to more crying, and more stress for both of you.

And so the cycle continues… through every growth spurt, leap and those pesky witching hours.

🔍 How to Tell If Your Baby Is Stressed

baby yawning

Sometimes it’s not hunger or a dirty diaper. Sometimes your baby is simply overstimulated.

Here are signs to watch for (based on NICU guidance and developmental experts; 3, 4):

Newborn Stress Cues

Sighing
Yawning
Sneezing
Hiccupping
Gagging or vomiting
Frowning
Fast-paced breathing
Skin discoloration (pale, flushed, or mottled)
Squirming
Jerky, flailing movements
Pushing away with arms/legs
Spreading fingers tensely
Limp or floppy limbs
Hyper-alert or frozen facial expression
Staring or looking away
Dull, blank eyes
Complete shutdown immediately after a hyperactive phase

These signs often appear in a progression — but every baby is unique. Use this list as a reference, not a checklist.

⚡️ What Causes Baby Stress?

Newborn stress triggers (or “stressors”) can include:

Loud noises
Bright lights
Quick or jerky movements
Excessive handling (even too many kisses!)
Uncomfortable clothing or diaper
Your own stress or anxious energy

We tend to focus only on hunger or tiredness, but these sensory triggers are just as important to monitor and manage.

How I Learned This the Hard Way

With my first two children, I didn’t recognize these stressors.

I was exhausted, anxious, and overwhelmed. I’d spiral, and my baby would spiral right along with me.

It would sometimes get so intense that I’d need hand them off to my husband or my mom because I felt I couldn’t calm them down on my own.

I didn’t have confidence that I had the ability to control the situation — when in reality, I always did, I just needed to calm myself first.

How I Did It Differently the Third Time

By the time my third came along, I had grown into my motherhood.

Even when he cried, I stayed grounded. I softened my voice. I moved gently. I reassured him with calm energy — and that alone often made the biggest difference.

💡 Confidence matters. Your baby can feel your stability and security even before they understand your words.

3. Swaddle. Every. Time.

Newborn in blue wrapped swaddle

Don’t underestimate the power of the swaddle—especially during those tough, fussy evenings.

When the dreaded witching hour starts becoming a regular visitor, it’s easy to slip out of the bedtime routine. You’re running on fumes, in full survival mode. But here’s the truth: this is exactly when routine matters most—and swaddling is one of the most important steps.

Why Swaddling Matters (A Lot)

Swaddling helps counter the startle reflex—that jolt babies get from their own twitching arms or legs. These natural reflexes helped your baby stay safe in the womb but now tend to disturb their sleep constantly.

✅ A proper swaddle helps calm these reflexes
✅ Keeps hands away from the face (a big help during feeds)
✅ Creates a comforting, womb-like environment that promotes better rest

How Swaddling Helped Me

By weeks 4–6, my baby started going through intense cluster feeds in the evenings. Swaddling became my best calming tool before nursing—it kept him from getting overstimulated, made latching easier, and helped him wind down faster.

If your baby gets cranky easily or flails during feeds, swaddling can genuinely save your sanity.

Which Swaddle Should You Use?

Honestly? There’s no one-size-fits-all answer here. Each baby is different.

All three of mine loved having their hands near their face—but each preferred a different swaddle! If your little one isn’t sleeping well, it might be time to try a new type of swaddle.

1. The Classic Wrapped Swaddle

hospital towel wrapped baby

The blanket wrap your hospital used is often enough for many babies. It’s simple and free. But here’s the catch:

It needs to be tight (but not restrictive), remember you are imitating womb conditions
Temperature management can be tricky—avoid overheating and likewise watch out for baby getting cold
If it’s too loose, babies can wiggle out—counterproductive and possibly dangerous
Breathable muslin is ideal for DIY swaddling at home
Perfecting the wrap may take time—practice makes perfect

If this method works for you, skip the fancy swaddles and celebrate—you’ve hit the jackpot.

2. The Velcro Swaddle

If you struggle to wrap your baby like a burrito, velcro swaddles are a great next step.

They’re secure, fast, and remove all the guesswork.

👶 Popular Picks:

The Ollie Swaddle – A bit pricy but it grows with your baby and is pretty simple to adjust!
Halo SleepSack Swaddle – The OG of sleep sacks, a practical and budget friendly alternative.
Swaddle Blankets – The most affordable and the one that ended up working for my second-born! They’re easy to use and the least bulky.

📝 Note: Velcro can be NOISY for midnight adjustments—something to consider if your baby is a light sleeper.

3. The Zipper Swaddle

zipper swaddle on baby

This is where we finally found success with our third baby.

Being a squirmy sleeper, he would wiggle out of the Velcro swaddles and they were way too loud and difficult to work with in the middle of the night.

He also didn’t like his hands pinned down, so… Zippers to the rescue!

⭐ The Game-Changer for Us:

Love to Dream Swaddle UP
This swaddle allows your baby to keep their arms in an “arms-up” position—great for self-soothing, but also rigorously tested so still safe while being snug.

After trying out many swaddles, this one was the only one that wouldn’t upset him and helped him sleep the longest stretches!

Other zipper favorites include:

SwaddleMe Pods – My second-born also like this brand!
HappiestBaby Swaddle Sack – This one also doubles up a zipper with adjustable velcro straps, but they are quieter than the standard velcro-only swaddles.

4. Finish the Feeds

mom breastfeeding newborn

This one is especially for my breastfeeding mamas—but even if you’re pumping or formula-feeding, this tip will save you a lot of unnecessary stress.

Honestly? This was one of the biggest ways I sabotaged the newborn phase the first two times.

I had very little patience for long feedings.

If my baby nursed longer than 10 minutes, I assumed I was being used as a human pacifier—and I’d unlatch and switch sides without thinking twice.

If my baby appeared hungry, I’d latch them onto the opposite breast for that quick let-down.

The result?

My babies were always cranky and always seemed hungry.

I assumed there was something wrong with me—maybe I had a low milk supply.

Or maybe this was just how breastfeeding is supposed to feel: hard and relentless.

Don’t get me wrong, breastfeeding is very difficult.

But looking back, I see it clearly: I was cutting their feeds short and it was making a difficult task almost impossible.

Why It Matters to Let Your Baby Fully Finish a Feed

Yes, it’s normal for newborns to nurse what feels like all the time in the first month (hello, cluster feeding).

But making sure they fully finish each feed helps this and can:

Reduce fussiness and help your baby feel satisfied
Promote better sleep windows between feeds
Support your milk supply and let baby get to the fatty, filling hindmilk
Over time, help you move toward a more predictable feeding schedule

How to Set Up a Successful Feeding

newborn suckling on hands

Approaching your feeds intentionally is the best way to set yourself up for success.

Here’s the approach I wish I had followed from the start:

🍼 1. Catch the Early Hunger Cues

First and foremost, make sure you know the signs that your newborn is hungry.

This is super important because the sooner you can start the feed the better!

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Early hunger cues include:

Lip smacking
Noticeable mouth and tongue movements
Putting hands to mouth
Sucking motions
Light fussing

By the time your baby is crying, it’s a late hunger cue—so try to catch them before the tears come.

⏱ 2. Time the Feed

Newborns generally nurse for 10 to 20 minutes per side, especially in the early weeks.

That means a full feed can take up to 40 minutes total—yes, really!

Instead of pulling baby off too soon, let them finish the first breast (at least for 10 minutes) before offering the second.

They’ll likely get more hindmilk that way—and that creamy, fatty milk helps them feel full longer.

🔄 3. Offer Both Breasts (Every Time)

That said, offer both breasts at every feed.

Even during those exhausting nighttime feeds, I made it a point to offer both breasts, even if it meant gently waking baby to do so.

Why was I risking my sanity by waking my sleepy baby?

Because I saw that when he emptied both sides, he slept longer.

And if you’ve ever longed for a 3-hour stretch of newborn sleep, you know that’s a big deal.

Here is another great pin you can save to remind yourself!

Notice this one says that feedings for some newborns can take up to 60 minutes at a time!

However, if your newborn is feeding longer than that then you should probably talk to your pediatrician or a lactation consultant as it could mean your baby is not effective at removing milk from your breasts!

✅ Reality Check for Exhausted Mamas

Reading this on your phone during a 2 a.m. feed?

I see you.

It sounds simple on paper (or your screen, in this case), but in real life—completing feeds is hard to commit to.

You’ll already be exhausted feeding every 1–2 hours during cluster feeding days, and your nipples will be extremely sore and barely hanging on for the first few weeks.

📝 Side note! A big gamechanger in the nipple-soothing game was these Silverettes recommended by other breastfeeding mammas. They’re less messy and more hygienic (antibacterial) than the Lansolin Soothies I was used to using!

But I promise: pushing through to complete the feeds will help you get past the hardest part faster.

Soon, you’ll notice:

Longer stretches between feeds
A more content baby
And your own confidence growing with every feed

5. Keep Track of Everything

hands using phone

The most natural follow-up to “finishing the feeds.”

Because here’s the truth:

👉 You can’t improve what you’re not tracking.

If you want to know which side you last nursed on, how long your baby actually fed (so that you can confirm you breastfed for at least 10 minutes each time), or whether that fourth diaper of the day was normal — you need a system.

I tracked some feedings, sleep, and diapers for all three of my babies — but with my third, I got consistent and intentional.

And wow, what a difference it made!

I use the Baby Tracker – Newborn Log app, and it gives a nice weekly pattern graph that looks like this.

What you use, however, doesn’t matter so much as keeping track of everything does.

Whether it’s a baby tracking app, the chart your postpartum nurse gave you at the hospital, or a simple notes app on your phone — just use something that’s easy for you to stick with.

🍼 Track Feedings to Support Better Sleep

Newborn sleep can already feel all over the place — because it is.

But tracking feedings helps you eliminate one major variable:

Is baby falling asleep hungry? Did baby feed long enough?

If you’re keeping tabs on feeding times and sides, you’ll know exactly when the last full feed was and whether your baby might need a top-up — instead of guessing (or stressing).

🧷 Track Diapers to Monitor Intake

Diapers are the most basic way to know if baby is getting enough milk — especially in those early days when everything else feels like a blur.

Here’s a simple rule of thumb:

Day 1: 1 wet diaper
Day 2: 2 wet diapers
… (Day number equivalent to number of wet diapers)
Day 6 and beyond: 6–8 wet or poopy diapers daily

This isn’t just about checking a box — it’s reassurance that your baby is hydrated, digesting, and feeding well.

💤 Track Sleep to Catch Patterns

Newborns need a lot of sleep — usually between 14 to 17 hours a day.

If your baby is well-fed but still cranky or overtired, checking their nap and nighttime logs can tell you if they’re simply not getting enough rest.

Sleep affects feedings, and feedings affect sleep. They’re deeply connected, and tracking helps you decode the patterns.

⚠️ A Gentle Word of Caution

Tracking everything in the newborn phase is incredibly helpful — but don’t let it turn into an obsession.

You’re doing this for insight and peace of mind — not perfection.

Once you’ve gotten into a rhythm and your baby’s cues become clearer, you can begin easing off and trusting your instincts more.

Because ultimately, your intuition is your greatest parenting tool.

6. Burp Your Baby — Every. Single. Time.

mom burping baby

I know.

It will be so tempting to overlook this tip, trust me I’ve been there.

You’ve just worked so hard to latch, feed, and settle your little one (Yay to little victories!)… and now, they’re finally drifting off into that sweet, sleepy haze.

You’re this close to the crib — almost there!

And you think:

💭 “They’ll be fine, I’ll just skip the burp this time.”

Wrong!

Don’t sabotage your efforts!

Burping Isn’t Optional — It’s Essential

No matter how peaceful your baby looks, if you skip burping, you’re almost guaranteeing:

Grunting
Squirming
Fussiness
Spit-up
Or a full-on wakeup from gas pain

That perfect post-feed nap? Gone.

Yes, Even If It Wakes Them Up

Burping your baby might rouse them a bit — but it’s far better to handle any air bubbles now, when they’re calm and full, than to wait for gas to disrupt their sleep (or your night).

It’s way easier to soothe a drowsy baby than a screaming, uncomfortable one who’s fighting tummy pressure.

Why You Always Burp After Feeding

Here’s the deal:

During a feed — whether breastfeeding or bottle — your baby swallows some air.

That trapped air moves downward and causes discomfort if not released.

Burping helps:

Relieve gas pressure
Prevent reflux
Reduce spit-up
Ease digestion
Promote longer, deeper sleep

Make It Part of the Routine

This isn’t just a bedtime thing.

👉 Burp after every single feeding.

Day or night. Ten minutes or two ounces. Breast or bottle. Every. Time.

Think of it as the exclamation point at the end of a feed — it seals the deal.

Need Help Getting That Burp Out?

Some babies burp easily with a quick pat on the back. Others? Not so much.

Here’s a proven, gentle burping technique that works almost every time — perfect for newborns:

▶️ Watch this video here → Proven Burping Method for Newborns

Or, if you’re in a hurry, try one of these parent-favorite tools designed to make burping easier (and more effective):

💡 Parent-Recommended Burping Aids

🍼 Boppy Original Nursing Pillow — Ideal for supporting baby while burping
💨 FridaBaby Windi Gas & Colic Reliever — For those stubborn gas moments
🧸 Burp Cloth 6-Pack by Copper Pearl — Super soft and ultra absorbent

7. Plan the Pacifier

baby sucking on a pacifier

Everyone knows about the pacifier.

Some may even warn you about the pacifier.

But no one prepares you for how surprisingly tricky this little thing can be!

Let’s break it down:

Most lactation consultants will advise waiting to introduce a pacifier until breastfeeding is well established.

But ask any mom who’s been through the newborn trenches and she’ll probably tell you to at least give it a try that first week— kind of a “thank me later” thing.

Here’s what I’ve learned from personal experience, and you can take what works for you and leave the rest.

My Pacifier Journey

My first two babies took to pacifiers like pros, and I completely took that for granted — until my third flat-out refused.

I quickly became a full-time human pacifier.

My third baby would only settle with me, and the moment I put him down?

Chaos.

He didn’t even start falling asleep with anyone else until after his first month.

So take it from me: do not underestimate the pacifier or assume your baby will just take one.

Even if you’re unsure about using one early on, buy a variety ahead of time and be ready.

And if your baby takes one right away — amazing.

If not, don’t give up too soon.

When to Introduce a Pacifier

The general medical recommendation is to introduce a pacifier around 4 weeks, once breastfeeding is firmly established.

But if things are going smoothly for you before that point, don’t be afraid to give it a go.

The key is being intentional — both with timing and technique.

👶 Tips for Introducing a Pacifier

a bunch of different pacifiers

1. Stock Up on a Variety

The best advice for embarking on the pacifier road is making sure you are stocked up on the industry’s variety of pacifiers.

Any and all pacifiers should be candidates because you really never know which your baby will prefer and take.

And you can’t assume one type that worked previously will work again.

My first and second born didn’t take the same pacifier, so having a lot of options to choose from really helped set us up for success.

Here are some pacifiers you should have on-hand in your hospital bag, each with a different nipple:

Philips Avent Soothie– these also come with stuffed animals attached to them, my son was obsessed with his
MAM Newborn Pacifier – the most breastfeeding friendly option
BIBS Natural Rubber Pacifier – another popular option, however, didn’t work for any of my kids
Dr. Brown’s HappyPaci – the nipple on these matches the Dr. Brown’s bottle nipples

Having multiple types on hand gives you the best chance at finding a winner.

2. Let Someone Else Try

If you’re breastfeeding, your baby may not appreciate being offered a pacifier by the very person whose nipple they prefer instead.

Have your partner or a grandparent try instead and introduce the pacifier during a calm moment.

It might just work — and bonus, it’s great bonding time for them.

3. Introduce When Baby is Happy

Probably the worst time to introduce your baby to taking a pacifier is when you feel they need it the most!

Avoid offering the pacifier when baby is already fussy or overstimulated — and especially in the evenings.

Try introducing it in the morning, after a good feed, and when baby is calm and content.

That’s when they’re more open to trying something new.

4. Use the Tug Technique

Once baby has the pacifier in their mouth and is showing an interest in it (ie. not immediately spitting it out), help them take it by gently teasing the pacifier in and out of the mouth.

If they latch onto it, then give it a gentle tug to trigger their sucking reflex.

If you are successful, your baby should begin sucking on the pacifier.

Repeat as needed.

You might be surprised how quickly they catch on!

5. Catch a Natural Suckle Moment

Although our baby would be more open to trying the pacifier at certain times of the day, he didn’t seem to know what to do with it, even with the little tug method.

He would chew and lick and try to suck, sometimes even latch on after a little tug, but then immediately begin gagging.

Yikes!

I learned that one of the best times to introduce the pacifier is when your baby is already showing signs of comfort sucking — like right after a full feed when you know for sure they are comfort sucking and not hungry.

This is the absolute best time to try and reintroduce the pacifier!

6. Don’t Give Up Too Soon

Let’s say you have tried everything and your baby still refuses to take the pacifier.

Well, even if your newborn isn’t interested right now, that doesn’t mean it’s a lost cause.

They might end up taking one up later, you never know!

Many babies who have refused the pacifier at birth are willing to try again by 4 to 6 weeks.

Lactation consultants even recommend to only start offering the pacifier at this time, so don’t feel discouraged if your baby prefers to nurse for comfort for the time being.

Still keep offering it — especially after feeds or when baby is falling asleep.

Consistency is key.

🗣️ Real Talk: Balancing Pacifiers & Breastfeeding

I was hyper-focused on establishing breastfeeding with my third — especially with a bigger age gap between him and my second.

I worried that a pacifier would complicate things.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

Pacifiers usually won’t interfere with breastfeeding.

If you do notice that your baby consistently struggles to nurse after using one, try using the pacifier less, not necessarily cutting it out altogether.

Babies will learn and figure it out if you’re committed and consistent with breastfeeding.

But pacifier acceptance?

That window can open and close.

And once it does, comfort nursing will become your full-time job.

8. Watch Your Diet (If You’re Breastfeeding)

mom breastfeeding with a plate of food next to her

Even if you’re not breastfeeding, watching your diet postpartum is a smart move.

Your body is healing from an enormous transformation — and nourishing it with wholesome foods can make a huge difference in your energy, recovery, and mood.

But if you are breastfeeding or pumping, this becomes even more important.

Because what you eat can directly affect how your baby feels.

🍽️ Your Diet Can Impact Baby’s Digestion

There aren’t many formal studies proving that specific foods cause gas in babies — but generations of moms will tell you otherwise.

Many swear by a list of common “trigger” foods that they believe make their babies fussy, gassy, or uncomfortable.

Here are some of the most commonly cited culprits (3):

Leafy greens (like kale or spinach)
Legumes (beans, lentils, chickpeas)
Onions and garlic
Peppers and spicy foods

Garlic and onion, in particular, are often blamed for changing the taste of breast milk — so much so that some babies reportedly reject the milk after these are eaten.

Trust Your Gut — and Your Baby’s

Every baby is different.

Some will nurse happily no matter what you eat.

Others may be more sensitive.

If you notice your baby seems irritable, gassy, or restless after a specific meal, listen to your instincts.

Try eliminating that food for a few days and see if there’s a difference.

If things improve, you may have found a trigger.

💡 That said, don’t feel like you have to eliminate nutrient-rich foods just because they’re on some “no-no” list.

Spinach, garlic, and beans offer amazing health benefits for you and baby — so only remove them if you suspect they’re actually causing discomfort.

⚠️ Known Allergens That Can Affect Breastfed Babies

While gassy foods are more anecdotal, science does back up the idea that some food allergens can pass into breast milk, especially:

Dairy/lactose
Soy
Gluten

If your baby has visible signs of discomfort, rashes, colic symptoms, mucus in stools, or other digestive issues — especially with a family history of allergies — talk to your pediatrician about an elimination diet.

Keep It Balanced, Not Fear-Based

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with “what not to eat” while breastfeeding.

But remember:

Your baby is resilient, your breastmilk is amazing, and small dietary changes — if needed — can make a huge difference without being overly restrictive.

Focus on whole foods, stay hydrated, and observe how baby reacts.

✨ Trust your instincts. They’re better than any food list.

9. Don’t Forget to Clear Baby’s Nose

nasal bulb held above baby nose

This one might surprise you — but it’s so important.

Think: Airway First!

Your baby’s nasal passages are tiny.

And they rely on clear breathing not just for comfort, but also for feeding and sleeping well.

It will be your job to keep their nasal airway clear!

A stuffy nose can throw everything off — from latch issues at the breast to unnecessary wake-ups at night.

You might have their diaper changed and belly full… but if they can’t breathe well, sleep will still be a struggle.

😮‍💨 Why Babies Get Congested

Newborns are obligate nasal breathers for the first few months — meaning they prefer (and mostly rely on) breathing through their noses.

Common causes of nasal congestion in babies include:

Dry air (especially in winter or with AC running)
Cool temperatures
Post-feeding reflux (milk can back up into the nasal passage)
Allergens or irritants in the environment
Normal newborn mucus (they’re still clearing amniotic fluid!)

👃 How to Keep Baby’s Nose Clear

Here’s what’s worked for me — and what pediatricians recommend:

✅ Use a Saline Spray + Nasal Aspirator

Before a feed or nap, use a few drops of infant-safe saline spray in each nostril to loosen up mucus.

Then gently suction using:

A manual nasal aspirator (the FridaBaby NoseFrida is way more effective in clearing nasal passages than the bulbs the hospital gives)
Or a hospital-grade automatic nasal aspirator (pricier alternative but meets the hype!)

Tip: Do this right before feeding or bedtime to help baby breathe easier — and sleep longer.

✅ Run a Cool-Mist Humidifier

Dry air can be a huge culprit when it comes to congestion.

Running a cool-mist humidifier in baby’s room can make a big difference in keeping nasal passages moist.

Look for models with:

Easy-to-clean filters
Auto shut-off
Quiet operation (for sleep!)

Popular option: Levoit Cool Mist Humidifier

✅ Keep Baby Cozy, Not Cold

Babies can get stuffy if they’re underdressed.

Keeping them comfortably warm (but not overheated) can help prevent cold-induced nasal swelling.

Layer baby’s clothing instead of using thick blankets (suffocation hazard!), and adjust based on room temperature.

🍼 Pro Tip Before Feeding

Always check baby’s nose before a feed!

A stuffy nose can make sucking difficult, causing frustration or early fatigue — especially in breastfed babies.

Clearing their nose beforehand helps them latch deeper and stay latched longer.

10. Watch Baby’s Temperature — Not Just the Room’s!

baby sleeping in long sleeved suit

I originally planned to title this tip “Keep Baby Warm,” but the truth is… it’s not just about warmth — it’s about comfort.

Every baby is different.

Everyone has a baby at different seasons .

And every home environment adds its own challenge when it comes to managing your baby’s body temperature.

So instead of aiming for just “warm,” think comfortably cozy — not too hot, not too cold.

Because yes — temperature can majorly affect your baby’s sleep.

😴 Temperature & Sleep: What’s the Connection?

Babies (especially newborns) are still learning to regulate their body temperature.

That means they rely on you and their environment to stay at a safe and comfortable level.

Too cold?

They may become tense, fussy, or wake frequently.

Too warm?

They can become sweaty, uncomfortable — and even at risk of overheating, which is a SIDS risk factor.

Most babies sleep best slightly warm — not hot — and wrapped in a secure, breathable swaddle or sleep sack.

🔥 “Warm Baby = Sleepy Baby”? Not Always!

It’s true: my babies — and many others — often slept longer when they were warm and snuggly.

But let’s be real — warm sometimes means sweaty.

And a sweaty baby usually leads up to a sweaty, and probably uncomfortable mom too.

Here’s the key takeaway:

🌡️ Don’t aim for “warm.” Aim for “just right.”

🧸 How to Keep Baby at a Safe, Comfy Temperature

Here are some parent- and pediatrician-approved tips to keep your little one sleeping safely and soundly:

✅ Ideal Room Temperature: 68–72°F (20–22°C)

This is the sweet spot most experts recommend for safe newborn sleep.

➡️ Use a room thermometer if you’re unsure. Many baby monitors include this feature.

✅ Dress Baby in Layers

Think: one more layer than you’re wearing.

Base layer (like a onesie) + a swaddle or sleep sack is usually enough.

These Kyte Baby Sleep Bags are both lightweight and breathable — made from bamboo.

In warmer climates, light cotton swaddles or short-sleeve onesies may be better.

In cooler weather, opt for long sleeves or wool sleep sacks — but make sure they’re breathable.

✅ Feel Their Chest or Back — Not Hands or Feet

Babies often have cold hands or feet, even when they’re warm enough.

Instead, gently feel their chest, back of neck, or torso to gauge body heat.

If they’re sweaty, hot, or clammy, remove a layer.

If they feel cool or tense, add one.

✅ Use a Humidifier (Bonus Tip!)

mom using humidifier

Dry air — especially in winter — can make babies feel cooler and more congested.

A cool-mist humidifier helps maintain comfy breathing and sleeping temps.

❗ Hiccups = Sneaky Cold Clue?

You may have noticed this already:

Your baby gets hiccups when they’re cold or overstimulated.

While not an official diagnostic tool, hiccups can sometimes be your baby’s way of saying,

“Hey! I’m not totally comfortable here.”

If your baby gets hiccups regularly after feedings or naps, try checking:

Room temperature
Their clothing layers
Whether they feel tense or chilly

If it is temperature discomfort that is leading to reflux-induced hiccups, then just adding a light layer or warming up the space can help prevent them.

11. Try to Stick to a Routine — But Expect Changes!

mom and baby yawning

As best as you can… whatever that means, right? 😅

Let’s be real: when you’re in the thick of the newborn phase, the word “routine” feels like a cruel joke.

You’re lucky if you remember the last time you ate something warm, let alone got your baby to nap at the “right” time.

But here’s the truth: babies actually do thrive on consistency — even if that consistency changes week to week.

🎯 Routines Help — Even If They’re Loose

You won’t create a flawless, military-precision routine during the newborn stage (and you shouldn’t try to).

But even a soft rhythm to your day — eat, play, sleep — can make a huge difference in how smoothly things run.

The key?

💡 Use a routine as your roadmap, not a rigid rulebook.

🔄 Predictability Doesn’t Mean Perfection

Yes, your baby will eventually become more predictable…
Until they don’t.

Growth spurts, developmental leaps, teething, or even a skipped nap can throw everything off.

And that’s normal.

Instead of panicking when the routine crumbles, try this instead:

Zoom out and look at the full day (not just the bad hour)
Track what you can (we’ve already talked about the benefits of tracking, this is another one of them), but don’t obsess over every detail
Be flexibile — and build it into your mindset

📱 Tracking Apps Are Your Best Friend

To even have a sense of routine, you’ll want to track sleep, feeds, and diapers.

Apps make this 100x easier — especially during those foggy 3 AM feeds when time isn’t real.

If you haven’t already, try these mom-favorite apps:

Huckleberry — Great for predicting nap windows with “Sweet Spot” alerts
Baby Tracker — Simple, intuitive, and covers everything from sleep to pumping (the one I use!)
Glow Baby — Clean layout, lots of health tracking options

🔁 Whichever you choose — the real magic is in using it consistently.

Tracking helps you:

Spot patterns in feeding and sleep
Predict when meltdowns are most likely
Plan your day (especially with other kids in the mix!)

🧠 Routines Help the Whole Family

Getting into a rhythm doesn’t just help your baby — it helps everyone.

Older siblings, partners, and even YOU benefit from knowing what to expect and when.

➡️ Need to time a school pickup around nap? Routine helps.
➡️ Want to pump between cluster feeds? Routine helps.
➡️ Craving 10 minutes of alone time with a hot coffee? Routine helps.

Even when your baby’s exact schedule changes, your awareness of those shifts helps the entire household move smoother.

💛 Final Word: It’s OK if You Can’t Lock It In

If reading all this makes you feel like a failure because your baby still doesn’t have a nap pattern — breathe.

You’re not alone.

Some babies click into a rhythm quickly.

Others stay attached to you 24/7 and sleep in 30-minute intervals (hey, that’s us!).

Both are normal.

Both are OK.

The newborn phase is short, but it demands flexibility — from your baby and from you.

So yes, try to stick to a routine…

But give yourself the grace to rewrite it when life inevitably changes course.

Because the real goal?

Connection, not control.

Recap: You’ve Got This, Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It

mom and baby smiling

The newborn phase can feel like a punch to the gut — even when it’s not your first rodeo.

My husband and I were caught off guard with our third baby, despite having done it twice before.
(Granted, we had a 5-year gap — but still!)

🧩 But It Doesn’t Have to Be That Way

You can feel more in control.

You can enjoy this phase more.

You can avoid some of the chaos.

This list of tried-and-true newborn tips didn’t just get us through—it helped us regain confidence, restore our sanity, and reconnect with the joy of those early days.

🎯 The Bottom Line?

Understand what your newborn needs — and stay on top of those needs as best you can.

That’s the magic formula.

✔️ Feed them well
✔️ Keep them comfortable
✔️ Respond to their cues
✔️ Trust yourself to know what your baby needs best

When those basics are covered, the rest starts to fall into place more easily.

⚠️ But Yes… Surprises Will Still Happen

You’ll still hit rough days.

There will still be cluster feeds, unexpected wakeups, and moments where you doubt everything.

But now you’re equipped.

You know what to look for, how to troubleshoot, and most importantly—you know that you are enough.

So whether this is baby #1 or baby #5, remember:

💛 You’re doing better than you think.
💡 You’re not alone in the hard moments.
👶 And this phase truly does fly by.

You’ve got this, mama.

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